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Tuesday, June 18, 2013

How heavy is this...........

Found this on Facebook and had to share

A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an 

audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked 

the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she 

inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I 

hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll 

have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and 

paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I 

hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life 

are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. 

Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about 

them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as 

you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and 

into the night. Remember to put the glass down!


This was a sore point between my late husband and me, he was a worrier and 

always had a hard time sleeping and letting things go.

He said I did not care because I was able to put things aside and slept well.

If you are a worrier, don't put that guilt on your partner, don't try to change 

others, change yourself.



  1. Nice post, Teri. I am not a worrier and I don't think my husband is either...thank goodness. We have always just tried to do the best we can each day and then start all over the next. And now the older I get the more determined I am to live a simple worries!

  2. Good analogy. I am a worrier by default; it takes conscious effort to set that water down. Every time I set it down, the habit becomes a little more ingrained.

    Your husband could have thanked you for modeling good mental health. I'm sorry he didn't.

  3. I think I've been fairly successful at putting down that glass of water each afternoon. Of course it helps to then pick up a glass of wine. :)

  4. I don't know if I'd call it worrying as much as not able to stop thinking. Maybe they are the same thing but I know in a month I'll be lucky to get more than 4 hours of sleep straight a night. My brain never stops, I even went for help, didn't work...

    If I could I'd break the glass... :)


  5. Seems some glasses I set down easier than others, but I'm getting better at it. Does throwing the glass at walls count? That's what my ex-husband used to do.

  6. This is so true. The older I get, the more I'm learning that each personality is so different in people. There are factors behind each person that led them to where they are mentally. It comes down to accepting people for what they are. Although at times, it's hard to put all judgement aside. My worst is at night. I'll wake up from a dream that usually pertains to something in my life, then it starts the whole process of overthinking things at night when I should be sleeping. That glass can get pretty darn heavy at times!

  7. Thank you for posting this.

    What will be will be. You cannot change the past. The future has yet to happen. All you have is the present moment and all you will ever have is the present moment. When this is fully realized, it becomes much easier to let go. I'm a long-time meditater and it has taken years to get to this point. I still have "hiccups" every now and then and have step outside of myself in order to let something go.

  8. Great post and really good point. Intellectually I know that worry is just a huge waste of time and energy. If it's something I can do something about then I will. If it's not then what good does worrying about a thing I can't change do me? Now if I could just shut my brain off by saying SHUT UP, or some other nicer version and it would listen, that would be great.

    1. One of those wellness gurus says to himself: "Next."

  9. Thanks for these words of wisdom today....I'm putting everything down. It's all to heavy to be carrying around. Time to put my feet up and enjoy the scenary ^_^!


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